45. All Apologies - By Thom Wong - Supergranular⁠↗

Here’s the thing—even before the pandemic (this was a real time, there are pictures and everything) different people had different capacities for doing things. But even people with the exact same capacity for a thing don’t have to do those things at the same rate, or at all. We’re all grown ass people. (I assume we are. If any children are reading this, I’m sorry for the intense topics but not for any swearing.) So we shouldn’t have to say things about how we’d love to do X on Friday but Y and Z, where Y and Z are anything other than a meteorite just fell into my sitting room. Stop apologising for the energy you have to be around other people.

What’s not good is insisting someone else have perspective. Insisting someone else have perspective is as gross as insisting they love you. We should manage our own perspectives and if someone needs to gain one, trust the universe to provide it through a conduit more encompassing than us.

Here’s a thing that’s true: you wanting something doesn’t preclude anyone else from having anything. It just doesn’t. Now maybe it’s a good practice to want less, given the state of the world and the sheer lunacy of late-stage capitalism. But so much has been taken from us the last two years—health, safety, routine, membership in the European union—that we can perhaps be forgiven for wanting a few things right now. So want what you want. Want it unabashedly. Stop apologising for wanting things.